Your child has different needs as she/he grows and develops.
Good parenting means being able to understand these changes so that you can consistently respond in ways that are best for your child. We only get to be a child once. Because the experience in childhood is the foundation of emotional life, it is important to make it as good as it can be.
Depression & Anxiety
Experts disagree on the causes, but nearly all agree that depression and anxiety are much more common today than forty or fifty years ago. Psychologist Richard O’Connor estimates that the percentage of people who are depressed at any given time is about 20% — one person in five.
- A sad or depressed mood
- Loss of interest or satisfaction in ordinary activities
- Unexplained changes in eating and sleep patterns
- Decreased energy and activity
- Increased fatigue
- Feelings of pessimism, guilt and hopelessness
- Difficulty with concentration and decisions
- Thoughts of death, suicide or suicide attempts
The good news is that treatment works. About 80% of people who commit themselves to treatment — usually counseling or medication or a combination of both — get significant relief.
Shakespeare said it best: “Everyone can master a grief but he that has it.” Often persons struggling with grief — whether over the loss of a parent, child, spouse, sibling, partner, or friend — do so feeling completely alone. When the funeral is over and everyone else is back to normal, the person who has lost a loved one is left with a huge hole in his or her life. Everything that was “we” is now just “me.” The pain can be excruciating for years, but after several months friends and family often no longer want to hear about it. “You have to move on.” “Let go and let God,” they say. It is much easier said than done. The Christian writer, C. S. Lewis offers a glimpse of his own experience in A Grief Observed.
Sadly, over half of all marriages end in divorce. For most people, this experience is second only to the loss of a loved one in terms of its painful impact. All too frequently children are caught-up in the vortex of turmoil that often accompanies the break-up of a marriage. It seems that no one is spared from the hurt — the couple, any children they may have, their families and their friends. People often need help navigating the stormy waters before they can begin rebuilding a meaningful life in the midst of and after this tragedy. Although most parents seek to minimize the disruption to their children, it can be very difficult to identify and respond to a child’s needs when the parents’ needs are overwhelmed by pain and confusion.